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Communication skills examples
Effective communication skills look like specific, repeatable behaviours: these examples cover work, relationships, conflict, listening and writing, with why each works.
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This page shows what good communication looks like in five settings: work, relationships, conflict, listening and writing. The principle behind every example is the same: good communication is specific, and the other person can act on it or feel heard by it. Each example has a short note on why it works. To build the skills, see how to improve communication skills.
Work examples
1. Stating the point first
“I need a decision on the vendor by Friday. Here are the two options.” Why it works: the listener knows what you want before the detail arrives, so they can follow it.
2. Flagging a problem early
“The report will slip by two days. I can send a draft tomorrow if that helps.” Why it works: it names the problem, the size and an option, so the other person can plan.
3. Telling your manager you are overloaded
“I’m at capacity with three projects. Which one should move if this new one comes in?” Why it works: it asks for a priority call instead of complaining, and it keeps the conversation on trade-offs.
4. Giving specific feedback
“In the client call you answered the pricing question directly, which built trust. Next time, pause after the question before you answer.” Why it works: it names a behaviour, an effect and one next step.
Relationship examples
5. Saying what you need
“I’d like an hour this weekend with no phones.” Why it works: it is a clear request, not a hint the other person has to decode.
6. Checking in without pressure
“How did the meeting with your sister go? No rush to talk about it.” Why it works: it shows you remember and leaves them room to choose.
7. Repairing after a misstep
“I was short with you earlier. I was stressed, and that wasn’t fair to you.” Why it works: it owns the behaviour without a long excuse.
Conflict examples
8. Starting with “I”
“I feel left out when plans are made without me.” Why it works: it describes your experience, which is harder to argue with than a claim about their character.
9. Separating the person from the issue
“I’m not questioning your work. I want to understand why the numbers changed.” Why it works: it lowers defensiveness before the real question.
10. Disagreeing without heat
“I see it differently. Can I walk through what I’m seeing?” Why it works: it asks permission, which keeps both people talking.
11. Saying no clearly
“I can’t take that on. I can help with the first section.” Why it works: it refuses once and offers a smaller real option.
Listening examples
12. Paraphrasing
“So the deadline moved and you’re worried about the handover?” Why it works: the speaker can confirm or correct, and they know you followed.
13. Open questions
“What was the hardest part?” Why it works: it invites a story, not a yes or no.
14. Tolerating silence
Waiting three seconds after a serious answer. Why it works: people often add the important part after a pause.
15. Matching the feeling
“That sounds exhausting.” Why it works: it shows you heard the emotion, not only the facts.
Written examples
16. A message with a clear ask
“Can you approve the budget by Thursday? Details are below.” Why it works: the ask and date are in the first line.
17. A summary after a meeting
“We agreed to launch on the 12th. Sam owns the copy and I own the checklist.” Why it works: it turns talk into owners and dates.
18. A gentle decline
“Thanks for thinking of me. I can’t commit to this now, and I’d rather say so than promise and miss it.” Why it works: it is warm, short and final.
How can you practise this before it counts?
Choose two or three examples above and say them aloud until the wording feels like yours. A free way is to record yourself on your phone, or to run the lines with a friend. If you want a structured version, Volo is an iPhone app with 25 AI roleplays you can type or speak, including “Telling your manager you’re overloaded” and “Recovering from something awkward you said”, and 61 ready-made scripts in its What To Say section, such as hard conversations. The free tier includes one roleplay and two scripts per category. Volo on the App Store
Where to go next
Related reading: communication skills and the best communication skills apps.
Questions people ask
What are examples of good communication skills?
Active listening, clear and concise speaking, asking open questions, giving specific feedback, staying calm in conflict and writing messages with a clear ask.
What are the 5 main communication skills?
There is no official list, but the usual five are listening, speaking clearly, non-verbal communication, writing and managing emotions in difficult conversations.
How do you show good communication skills at work?
State your point early, confirm what you heard, flag problems before deadlines and put decisions and next steps in writing.
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